Men-Catching Techniques!

Men-Catching Techniques!

Humour is immensely attractive Not the bitching, taking to pieces and general lowest form-of-wit sarcasm, but genuine humour yon can share. Smiling and laughing can ease pain, promote healing, relieve tension and stress and make you feel happier.

Have you ever stood in a club looking aloof in your new clothes, feeling depressed because nobody notices you? Your frumpy friend, wreathed in smiles, is swamped by men. Look and lean. The supercool, "I m perfect and totally unflappable" approach doesn t always work, especially if others interpret this as unapproachability. Open body language, as opposed to closed, is the language of love but remember that non-verbal signals are a minefield.

Nor everyone will understand what woo mean when you twitch your legs or gaze longingly into the bottom of your wine glass. Talking whilst moving the hands or playing with a finger ring and moving restlessly, s

ignals embarrassment or anxiety, whilst jerky movements call mean frustration, and shrinking body movements are indicative of depression. Crossed arms and legs can mean "Keep away". Hunched shoulders and avoiding someone gaze indicate unavailability.

Romantic interest is often preceded by preening behaviour; you might smooth your hair or brush imaginary dust from your clothes. Show your confidence with an erect posture and an upward tilt to the head. If sitting; down, lean slightly forward or tilt the head towards the person you want to impress, Engaging eye contact, smiling and moving towards someone are all signs of interest.

Much has been said about the effect of colour. Red is often said to indicate a come-hither, extrovert personality. Black has a slightly mysterious aura. White stands for innocence and put purity. And, while it is true that the colours we choose to wear have far more to do with fashion than anything else, psychologists believe that those who want to project a bubbly, fun-loving image choose bright, primary colours, whilst darker shades portray a more serious, introverted personality. Warm colours often give the impression of a warm, sympathetic person, cold the reverse. Remember that the next time you update your wardrobe.

 

How to say " I LOVE U " in 100 different Languages ?

How to say " I LOVE U " in 100 Languages ?

English - I love you

Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief

Albanian - Te dua

Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)

Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)

Armenian - Yes kez sirumen

Bambara - M'bi fe

Bengali - Ami tomake bhalobashi (pronounced: Amee toe-ma-kee bhalo-bashee) (THX GVamp!)

Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu

Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo

Bulgarian - Obicham te

Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah

Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a

Catalan - T'estimo

Cherokee - Tsi ge yu i (Thanks Nancy!)

Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse

Chichewa - Ndimakukonda

Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)

Creol - Mi aime jou

Croatian - Volim te

Czech - Miluji te

Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig

Dutch - Ik hou van jou

Elvish - Amin mela lle (from The Lord of The Rings, by J.R.R. Tolkien)

Esperanto - Mi amas vin

Estonian - Ma armastan sind

Ethiopian - Afgreki'

Faroese - Eg elski teg

Farsi - Doset daram

Filipino - Mahal kita

Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua

French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore

Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy

Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort

Georgian - Mikvarhar

German - Ich liebe dich

Greek - S'agapo

Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo

Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw

Hawaiian - Aloha Au Ia`oe

Hebrew - Ani ohevet otekh (to female) (Thanks Morris)

Hebrew - Ani ohev otkha (to male) (Thanks again)

Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw

Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae

Hmong - Kuv hlub koj

Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta

Hungarian - Szeretlek

Icelandic - Eg elska tig

Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw

Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu

Inuit - Negligevapse

Irish - Taim i' ngra leat

Italian - Ti amo

Japanese - Ainutseru

Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene

Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka

Kiswahili - Nakupenda

Konkani - Tu magel moga cho

Korean - Sarang Heyo

Latin - Te amo

Latvian - Es tevi miilu

Lebanese - Bahibak

Lithuanian - Tave myliu

Luxembourgeois - Ech hun dech gäer

Macedonian - Te Sakam (Thanks Eden!)

Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu

Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu

Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni

Marathi - Me tula prem karto

Mohawk - Kanbhik

Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik

Nahuatl - Ni mits neki

Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni

Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg

Pandacan - Syota na kita!!

Pangasinan - Inaru Taka

Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo

Persian - Doo-set daaram

Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay

Polish - Kocham Ciebie

Portuguese - Eu te amo

Romanian - Te iubesc

Russian - Ya tebya liubliu

Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort

Serbian - Volim te

Setswana - Ke a go rata

Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing'I Love You')

Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan

Sioux - Techihhila

Slovak - Lu`bim ta

Slovenian - Ljubim te

Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo

Swahili - Ninapenda wewe

Swedish - Jag alskar dig

Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di

Surinam - Mi lobi joe

Tagalog - Mahal kita

Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li

Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe

Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen

Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu

Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)

Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)

Turkish - Seni Seviyorum

Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu

Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo

Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)

Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)

Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di

Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh

Yoruba - Mo ni fe

Rules of Flirting

Rules of Flirting

Frankly speaking flirting is an art and you need special skills to master it. You do not have to be some beauty queen or a celebrity to make guys fall for you and go gaga over you. All you need is your gorgeous smile and few guaranteed flirting tips like the ones you'll find below to attract the opposite sex.

Rule 1 # Eyes have it all:

Lock eyes with the person you're flirting with for a full five to six seconds, then smile and drop your gaze. Please don't stare at him and make him feel embarrassed. Just give him a soft smoldering look and look away. Do this at least three times in a ten to fifteen-minute period. This way you will make him know that you are interested and approachable.

Rule 2 # Smile:

Smiling is absolutely the most effective tool in your flirting toolbox. Psychology and body language experts agree that one of the most important things you can do to make yourself more attractive (and approachable) is to smile.

Rule 3 # Expose your neck:

One of the most winning flirting techniques a woman can use is the exposure of her neck. This can be done with a head tilt to one side, the classic hair flip or the over-the-shoulder glance. According to body language experts this asymmetrical position attracts attention, exposes your neck, and makes a woman very attractive and sexy. The over-the-shoulder move also sends a signal to your target that he is worth a second look.

Rule 4 # Lip Service:

Both men and women are subconsciously attracted to red, moist lips because they signal youth, sex and fertility. Always wear a red lipstick which not only gives your lips that youthful colour, but also makes your smile more visible and your teeth whiter. A super-shiny lip gloss can also give you an advantage, making your lips look moist and kissable.

Rule 5 # Focus, Focus, Focus:

Once you and your flirting target have started talking, use these tips to deepen the attraction. First, smile and maintain eye contact as you are speaking, and focus all of your attention on what he is saying. If you aren't listening then that shows that you are not interested. Smiling and laughing are crucial here - it's the quickest, easiest way to put another person at ease and make a connection. Finally, another effective flirting technique is low-level touching such as brushing the shoulder or elbow.

"We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge. People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Pause and ponder. Think before you act. Be patient. Forgive & forget. Love one and all.

If you judge people, you have no time to love them". -- Mother Teresa

Deadly Marriage Sins...!

Deadly Marriage Sins...!

Congratulations! You have decided to tie the knot!

Take out the bubbly. After all, it is not every day that you have a wedding in the family, right?

You want to make it the best day ever in your life.

There's so much to be done -- buying your trousseau, accessories, jewellery, beauty treament, arrangements for the venue -- and you want it all to be just perfect.

Now, stop a minute. While your relations are all celebrating the good fun ahead, planning the rituals, and tying up loose ends, take a minute to read what grandma never warned you about: Life on the other side of marriage, Indian-style!

A bride has to live with that too!

Now that you have decided on your husband and said the all-important 'Yes', you will find that you are quite unnecessary -- sorry, inconsequential -- to the rest of the events playing out.

The Nanis and Auntyjis all have it pat: The rituals, ceremonies, what has to be given to whom and how much.

Meanwhile, the know-it-alls on the 'other side' have their own 'fundas', too.

To make life more interesting, they will have have rituals that will be somewhat different from your 'side'. And they will be enough to drive everyone in your family into a tizzy!

It doesn't matter how modern we are, how forward-looking we pride ourselves on being.

A marriage in the family is the one proof that we are throwback to the Dark Ages -- where the men and their families were right.

What do you do?

Relax. Take a deep breath. Learn to live with it. Smile. And say: Let them think what they want. You know better!

Then begins the bigger tug-of-war: The Venue.

This is when you will find that everyone has a mind of their own.

You do, too, of course. But you are just about to realise how inconsequential you really are.

First, it is a matter of checking out various venues.

Then you have to find out whether they are available for the dates you want.

Then comes the best part: Getting everyone's concurrence about the venue.

Oh, did we say everyone?

Let's take that back. Because by the time your parents are through with the entire exercise and getting the in-laws' approval, all you want to do is spare them the misery that your opinions will bring them.

What do you do?

Chill. Be happy you are getting married. And 'where' will pale in comparison.

Your plan: Spend the last few days of your singlehood with your family.

Everone's happy.

Reality: There are relatives springing out of the woodwork, everywhere you turn, under your foot, and even when you change.

So you decide to forget privacy.

Also, you have to coordinate pickups from the airports and railway stations.

Put up your extended family in the right places.

Caution: All this can lead to blow-ups of humungous proportions.

What do you do?

Keep the smile firmly on your face. Don't let go. It is your day. All else does not matter!

Here is one homily you will hear unfailingly: On your wedding day, act shy and demure. Never mind if you don't know what that means.

Here are some others: Take dainty steps. Keep the smile on your face. Don't let your guard down. You don't want Chachiji from the in-laws' side to feel you weren't pleased to meet her, would you?

You will that everyone who was happy to give you space and let you be, suddenly decides that you cannot be left alone.

There will be people everywhere you go. Guests who want to talk to you about your honeymoon plans or, better still, about your fiancé throwing up all over their Persian carpet when he was two years old.

All you want to do at this point is sit down and put up those aching feet. Or be gripped by a sudden desire to grab a smoke even if you were, till then, a card-carrying anti-tobacco campaigner.

What do you do?

Refrain from all and any thoughts of grabbing your soon-to-be spouse and making for the nearest registrar's office. There is just no escape!

Weddings are times of revelry.

They are also the time of discovery: That gorgeous wedding jewellery will feel like a mill around your neck, and that wedding sari wil feel like a ten-ton weight around your body.

Welcome to the world of dressing up.

If you are wearing a ghagra-choli, you will find the ghagra will pull at the waist and threaten to crash towards your feet in an unholy pile.

The dupatta, for its part, will compete weight-wise, making it difficult to keep your head covered -- a requisite in all weddings in north India.

You want to pull the dupatta back and risk looking undemure.

What do you do?

Grin. Bear it. Keep saying, only a few more hours. Then you can toss the wedding sari/ ghagra-choli, into your cupboard and not look at it for as long as you don't want to look at it.

While we are talking of dressing up, imagine getting all dressed up at those really unearthly hours.

The all-important mahurat dictates the length of your sleep or the lack of it.

With the beautician hurrying in to achieve that diva look, everyone will pay scant heed to your need to tuck in for a few more hours.

What do you do?

Be smart. Even though you are excited and all that, make sure you get plenty of rest in the days leading up to the wedding. You will have to run around, but plan your time well so that you will not need to do any last-minute chores.

After all is said and done, there is the food to be eaten.

Rich food that will, undoubtedly, settle on your hips forever and ever.

Here you are, dieting to look fabulous in that glorious wedding ensemble.

And when the big day arrives, the caterer's goodies arrive too.

There is oil or ghee in every dish. The food is yummy. And your relatives will pile your plate high with every item there is on the menu.

They will also make sure you eat all of it.

What do you do?

Again, plan well. Diet and work out in the months leading to your wedding.

Eat small portions and be firm when you are done. You are the bride. You are allowed to throw your weight around!

So remember to smile for the photographs and appear interested in every snotty-nosed kid who wishes you at the reception.

~ Bow to every Chachiji and Dadiji, who will offer you sage advice.

~ You will get more kisses from acquaintances than ever before.

~ But, above all, it is your wedding. Take it with a load of laughs.

Have a blast!

Cheating Partner

Cheating Partner

It is true that you are a miserable person once you suspect that your partner is cheating on you. It is important to bear in mind that you don't tell your partner of your suspicions until you gather a concrete proof. You don't tell about your plans or otherwise he/she will be more careful so it will be impossible to catch him/her.

You never confront him/her until you are absolutely sure. You just don't assume that he/she is being unfaithful but take some actions which might give you some clue.

Note down the most frequently used phone number : You may look for the details of the phone number you don't recognize and note the details of the call made/ received. Take for instance, a phone number which is on regular use (particularly the call which was made while he/she was commuting or when you were not around). Note down this number. It might be come handy.

Make a call from a pay phone: You could call the number which looks suspicious from a pay phone so that you are not identified. Call out this number and don't say anything, try to recognize the person's voice who answers. Mostly it is found that he/she is seeing someone known to both of you.

Search the pockets : If you are able to get hold of his/her credit card, wallet or manage to search his pockets to trace purchase of any gift which has not been bought for you (check the specifications like the date and the kind of purchase and tally with list of gifts you have received).

You might find some bills : You might be able to find some clue from any restaurant, hotel's bills. Keep this in your custody which might be useful in using as a solid proof.

The odometer reading : Check his/her vehicles Odometer to take readings before and after his trip to verify the distance he/she has covered, this will help you co-relate with your estimated calculations, and you might be able to work out where he could have been.

Clue from the deleted mail folder : You might be able to pick some clue from his/her deleted mail folder. You might be lucky to find some of the deleted e-mails which he/she has deleted recently.

Be alert : Always listen carefully to what he/she speaks avoiding asking any questions or he/she might not talk about the same thing again.

See if you find any perfumes : Check his/her pockets or belongings to see if you find any perfumes etc which does not belong to you.

Suddenly buying new clothes : If suddenly you find he/she is buying new clothes, it could be a helpful sign that he/she is seeing someone.

Monitor recently visited websites : You can monitor recently visited websites which could be the websites of vacation resorts for a travel which you are not aware of.

If you happen to prove that he/she is cheating on you, make sure you are prepared emotionally to bear the truth. Sit cool and think you can and should save your relation or not. Bear in mind you might end up in handling with a difficult situation.

A Nice Guys Guide to Dating Success

A Nice Guys Guide to Dating Success

Has it ever happened to you? Have you ever had the experience of liking a woman, being a perfect gentleman, and treating her like a queen, only to have her reject you in favor of someone else (possibly very handsome) who doesn't treat her right, or doesn't seem to care about her much at all? These kinds of men have been called "bad boys," "charm boys," or "players." When you are interested in women, do they tend to see you as a friend or "brother" rather than a romantic interest? Do women tell you you're "too nice"? If so, you are not alone. This article will give you, the nice guy, some tips on how to use charm-boy traits to your advantage, while retaining your nice-guy values.

Let's brainstorm for a minute. What makes charm boys or players attractive? They are fun, spontaneous, unpredictable, mysterious, and act as if they don't care what others think of them (also known as confidence). They follow their own rules and don't let others (including their dates) walk all over them. And they often look good.

So what can you do? You don't have to engage in risk-taking behaviors in order to succeed with women. Suggest some "safe" ideas on the spur of the moment; for example, "Let's go get some sushi/ice cream/a Margarita," or, "Let's go for a drive and see where we end up." If this is not the usual "you," you may enjoy your new-found spontaneity. You can be mysterious/unpredictable without violating your principles. Don't call her the day after getting her phone number or the day after a date. Give her time to wonder whether you'll call; keep her guessing. People often want what isn't easy to get, and women like a little challenge.

You're the man. Many women are looking for men who are confident and decisive, who can be relied on to get things done. On a date, take command but don't be pushy. Always have a Plan A and a Plan B, so you don't miss the concert just in case the restaurant loses your reservation and there's a 1-1/2-hour wait. But always be flexible, in case your date hates Chinese food, for example, or she just told you her favorite musical group is in town, tonight only. Low-cost dates conducive to getting to know each other include the zoo, a museum, or miniature golf. In addition to saving you money, these low-cost dates also minimize the feeling that you have to "spoil" her or "buy" her affection with an extravagant wining-and-dining evening. And if she likes you, she won't mind a "cheap" date; she just wants to be with you.

Keep it light and upbeat. Don't be needy or act nervous. You might be a bit anxious while on a date, but she doesn't need to know that. Keep things light and humorous, and pay attention to her. That in itself will help you take the focus off you and help you feel more confident. And be a gentleman (you're already good at this). For example, always offer to pick up the tab unless she insists on paying, open doors for her, etc. But don't overdo the gifts, lest you appear desperate.

Let her talk. This is where nice guys have an advantage. Most women like to communicate verbally and welcome the chance to be heard. (But make sure you listen; don't just let your mind wander.) She will be impressed if you remember details about things that are important to her, such as her pet's name or her favorite book. If you met her online, review her profile for questions you can ask her about her interests.

Neatness counts. Take another hint from the charm boys. You don't have to be a Brad Pitt look-alike, but make the most of what you have. Review your grooming, clothes, and accessories with an objective eye. If you want feedback, ask a friend--possibly a female friend--for honest input. Or tune into one of the new TV shows which focus on wardrobe/grooming tips for men.

Have a life (and a backbone). Just because you are dating a woman doesn't mean you drop everything else (including your own friends, hobbies, and interests). After all, relationships can come and go. Keep being yourself. You are not always at her beck and call. When you really don't want to do something (for example, if she wants you to cancel your ballgame or night out with your friends to go shoe shopping with her), it's okay to decline. Telling her no may be difficult for nice guys, but if she's worth keeping, she will respect you for this and value her time with you more. To soften the blow, you might offer her an alternative get-together. For example, "Sorry I can't make it on Saturday. How about I take you to that new play you've been wanting to see on Sunday instead?"

How does she rate? Remember: You have the right to evaluate her, not just the other way around. Does she deserve a second date? Is she relationship material (if that's what you're looking for)? Just because she's attractive/smart/classy doesn't necessarily mean she's right for you. Does she treat you well? Is she kind? Does she have decent self-esteem? Is she giving? If you're looking for a long-term relationship, can you see yourself still with her in 20 years, when some of the supermodel looks may have begun to fade?

The good news for nice guys is that as women get older, perhaps having survived a bad-boy heartbreak or two, they are more likely to appreciate nice guys. Make a list of your good points, the qualities you have to offer. Keep at it. And start believing that you are a catch (or at least act like it)!

Extramarital Affairs

Extramarital Affairs

Extramarital Affairs: What Everyone Needs to Know and What You Can Do to Help

Recent statistics suggest that 40% of women (and that number is increasing) and 60% of men at one point indulge in extramarital affairs. Put those numbers together and it is estimated that 80% of the marriages will have one spouse at one point or another involved in marital infidelity.

That may seem like a very steep number. However after two decades plus of full time work as a marriage and family therapist, I don't believe that number is off the charts. I worked with a great number of people involved in infidelity who were never discovered.

The possibility that someone close to you is or soon will be involved in an extramarital affair (any of the three parties) is extremely high.

Maybe you will know. You will see telltale signs. You will notice changes in the person's habits and behavioral patterns as well as a detachment, lack of focus and reduced productivity. Maybe you will sense something "out of character" but be unable to pinpoint what it is.

It is not a given that he/she will tell you. Those hiding the affair will continue to hide. The "victim" of the extramarital affair often, at least initially, is racked with anger, hurt, embarrassment and thoughts of failing that preclude divulging the crisis.

It might be important to confront the person with your observations, depending on the status of your relationship with the person.

It is important to understand that extramarital affairs are different and serve different purposes.

Out of my study and experience with hundreds of couples I've identified 7 different kinds of infidelity.

Briefly, some extramarital affairs are reactivity to a perceived lack of intimacy in the marriage. Others arise out of addictive tendencies or a history of sexual confusion or trauma.

Some in our culture play out issues of entitlement and power by becoming "trophy chasers." This "boys will be boys" mentality is subtly encouraged in some contexts. Some become involved in marital infidelity because of a high need for drama and excitement and are enthralled with the idea of "being in love" and having that "loving feeling."

An extramarital affair might be for revenge either because the spouse did or did not do something. Or the revenge may stem from rage. Although revenge is the motive for both, they look and feel very different.

Another form of infidelity serves the purpose of affirming personal desirability. A nagging question of being "OK" may lead to usually a short-term and one-person affair. And finally, some affairs are a dance that attempts to balance needs for distance and intimacy in the marriage, often with collusion from the spouse.

The prognosis for survivability of the marriage is different for each. Some affairs are the best thing that happens to a marriage. Others serve a death knell. As well, different extramarital affairs demand different strategies on the part of the spouse or others. Some demand toughness and movement. Others demand patience and understanding.

The emotional impact of the discovery of infidelity is usually profound. Days and weeks of sleeplessness, rumination, fantasies (many sexual) and unproductivity follow. It typically takes 2 ? 4 years to "work through" the implications. A good coach or therapist can accelerate and mollify the process. I don't recommend "marriage" counseling, at least initially.

The devastating emotional impact results from a couple powerful dynamics. Trust is shattered ? of one's ability to discern the truth. The most important step is NOT to learn to trust the other person, but to learn to trust one's self. Another is the power that a secret plays in relationships. THE secret exacts an emotional and sometimes physical toll that needs to be acknowledged and dealt with.

How can you help?

Those in the midst of their affair crisis told me they need this from you:

1. Sometimes I want to vent, get it out without censor. I know sometimes I will say what I shouldn't be saying. It may not be nice, pretty or mild. Please know that I know better, but I need to get it off my chest.

2. Every so often I want to hear something like, "This too shall pass." Remind me that this is not forever.

3. I want to be validated. I want to know that I am OK. You can best do that by nodding acceptance when I talk about the pain or confusion.

4. I want to hear sometimes, "What are you learning? What are you doing to take care of yourself?" I may need that little jolt that moves me beyond my pain to see the larger picture.

5. I may want space. I may want you to be quiet and patient as I attempt to sort through and express my thoughts and feelings. Give me some time to stammer, stutter and stumble my way through this.

6. I want someone to point out some new options or different roads that I might take. But before you do this, make sure I am first heard and validated.

7. When they pop into your mind, recommend books or other resources that you think I might find helpful.

8. I want to hear every so often, "How's it going?" And, I may want this to be more than an informal greeting. Give me time and space to let you know exactly how it IS going.

9. I want you to understand and welcome the ambivalent feelings and desires. I would like you to be fairly comfortable with the gray areas and the contradictions about how I feel and what I may want.

10. I want you to be predictable. I want to be able to count on you to be there, listen and speak consistently or let me know when you are unable to do that. I will honor that.

Extramarital affairs are powerful. Affairs are costly. They affect family, friends, colleagues and employers. Infidelity is also an opportunity ? to redesign one's life and love relationships in ways that create honor, joy and true intimacy.