Top 10: Ways To Approach A Babe

Top 10: Ways To Approach A Babe

We've all seen her -- that one woman who is just SO hot that every guy is too intimidated to approach her. But what if some one was willing to do it, and what if that someone was you? The simple truth is that the more attractive a woman is the more likely it is that every other guy is too scared to talk to her. So, here are 10 tips to put yourself ahead of the "pack" by learning how to talk to super-attractive women.

10: Recognize when she's receptive and when she's NOT

It's important that you cultivate the ability to recognize when a woman is "open and receptive" to you, and when she's not. When she looks at you, does she look away? Does she look down or to the SIDE when she looks away? As you become better and better at seeing receptive "states" in women, you'll find that your success will improve SUBSTANTIALLY.

9. Know how she'll react ahead of time

One of the reasons we don't start conversations with hot women -- in fact, why we don't even TRY to -- is because we don't have any idea what to expect. Most of us have never done it, and rarely have we even seen OTHER GUYS do it. So what happens, on average, with a guy who has learned to start conversations with hot women without being overly nervous and who has learned to project a calm, confident, open personality? In most situations, a guy like this will get at least an OPENING… it's RARE that a woman will treat him "rudely." And if, occasionally, a woman DOES respond rudely, you know it has more to with HER than it does with YOU

8. "Reprogram" your fear response

Most guys have a knee-jerk "fear response" when it comes to approaching a particularly attractive woman. If you want to "reprogram" this response fast, then go big and put yourself in a situation where you approach many women in rapid succession. If you approach 10, 20 or even 50 women in a single day, you'll make TREMENDOUS progress toward rewiring your instinctive fear reaction. Grab a buddy and commit to one another that you're both going to approach a certain number of women on a particular night. Give each other a mental high five for each approach, and before you know it, you'll have reached your goal for the evening… And approaching attractive women won't be NEARLY as big of a deal as it may have been for you in the past

7. Avoid "negative feedback loops"

What do guys do when they see a woman they'd like to talk to? They get stuck in what I call "inaction loops." They try to come up with something original and charming to say. Or they try to think of the perfect compliment. Or they starting imagining that she's not single, that she's too busy to talk or -- worst of all -- that she wouldn't be interested in someone like you. All of these thoughts lead to a powerful emotional and physical FEAR response that's real -- you can feel it in your body. Stay out of this loop by NOT HESITATING when you see a woman you want to approach, and have some sort of opener ready to go. This will get you talking quickly… Instead of going inside your head and letting your imagination work against you

6. Keep your cool

There are "trip wires" or triggers that can instantly put you in a BAD place with an attractive woman. Most of these big mistakes revolve around giving her your power, acting uncomfortably or unnaturally or letting the situation unnerve you and losing your composure. Avoid behaviors like trying to impress her, giving her more than one compliment, looking for her approval, doing things for her, kissing up to her, etc. At first, you'll need to consciously avoid these pitfalls. With practice, you'll get to the point where you NATURALLY avoid them

5. Never seek her approval

Seeking a woman's approval is the most common and most deadly mistake men make when talking to women. Think of it as a continuum from bad to good: You need her approval, you want her approval, you'd like her approval, but you're OK without it. Or, you only care a little bit about what she thinks of you and you could give a rat's ass if she approves of you or not. Figure out where you're at this continuum right now, and make it a point to progress with every interaction until you reach the point in which you no longer seek any woman's approval. Every bit of growth you make in this area has a POWERFUL effect on your ability to chat up and attract those super-babes you're after…

4.Try different attitudes for your approaches

I've seen many different attitudes and roles work well for approaching women: enthusiastic, serious, casual, interested, etc. Develop an approach that fits your personality, but also be willing to try out some styles. It's perfectly OK to test things out, experiment, and find what works to get the results you want. Think of three different attitudes you could try right now and make it a point to use each of them with at least three different women as soon as possible. This simple exercise can work miracles and put you in touch with a style of game that works for you personally.

3. Ask her opinion

About four or five years ago, I was out at a club and I stumbled upon an interesting way to start conversations with women. I decided it was time to start treating these women as if they were just people who happened to be where I was, and I wanted to chat with them. So I started approaching women and starting conversations with them by asking their opinions on things (especially on topics women find interesting, like the latest celebrity gossip, etc.). I left that night with five phone numbers from some of the hottest women I'd ever met. Asking a woman's opinion offers the lowest risk, and is one of the simplest ways to start a conversation.

2. Remember that approaching gives YOU a critical advantage

The good news is that it IS possible to rewire yourself and learn how to approach incredibly attractive women, and enjoy both incredible success and advantages as a result. Remember: Most men will NEVER seek this path of overcoming the fear of approaching gorgeous women, so when YOU do, you give yourself an almost unfair advantage over most of the men who are now living or for that matter, who have EVER lived. Pretty deep, huh? When you need a little motivation to nudge you to start talking to a woman, remember the incredible advantage approaching her will give you -- then let it happen

1.Commit yourself to mastery

Approaching attractive women is one of the "core" skills in your arsenal to improve your success with women. It'll open all sorts of doors for you and give you ample opportunities to practice your game, not to mention lead to a lot of "fun" with different women. But it's not something that'll change overnight. If you really want to get this part of your life handled, make a commitment to become a MASTER at approaching women. Get all the best ideas and techniques you can, practice them out in the field, and never stop learning. That's the path to true mastery.

 

 

Single on Valentines' Day...?

Single on Valentines' Day...?

So you're single on Valentine's Day -- big deal!

Sure, it's the day of hearts and love and all sorts of schmoopiness and you may feel a tad lonely if you don't have any significant other.

But that doesn't mean you spend the night at home in your pajamas eating chocolate ice-cream and weeping over photos of ex-lovers!

Here's a few ideas on how to have fun this Valentine's Day if you're single!

~ Throw a party -- a special V-Day party and invite a whole bunch of friends, single or otherwise! You may assume that couples you know want their privacy on this day, but that isn't always the case. In fact, they end up going on dates by themselves most of the time, so this is a welcome change of pace. Decorate the venue with plenty of heart balloons and set a dress-code -- all your guests have to wear red, for example. Everybody enjoys music, dancing and great food!

~ Make plans with your single friends -- Round up your gang of singles and head off to the theatre or for dinner. And don't make it a track-pants and old sneakers affair, either! Make sure you dress well and head out to a happening hotspot -- you can also go clubbing. Whatever plans you make, you'll have no time to mope if you're caught up in lively banter and surrounded by those who care about you.

~ Get together the family -- Valentine's Day isn't all about romance -- it's about every kind of love. You can have a family reunion on this day and really enjoy it! Get together for a cousin's night out or have the whole jing-bang over -- aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces... you're sure to have a good time catching up! You can also go the extra mile by sending your loved ones special V-Day cards to show how much you care.

~ Take a short trip -- Head away from the city! Round up the good ol' gang and just drive off for a relaxing couple of days to the seaside or a nearby hillstation. The weather is lovely most places this time of year and it'll be a welcome break from the commercial V-Day hoopla prevalent in the city.

~ Pamper yourself! Retail therapy and self-indulgence in small doses are great ways to lift your spirits. Go shopping, spend the day at a local spa or salon, get a makeover -- you'll be amazed at how a new set of clothes and hairdo will make you feel on top of the world (it could land you a date at the eleventh hour, too!).

~ Go the philanthropic route! Donate a little dough to worthy causes -- charity will make you feel good about yourself and also serves to remind you that there are far worse things than being single. If you love animals, arrange a little treat for the doggies at a local shelter or the animal hospital. Even better, volunteer your services or then adopt a less fortunate pet. You'll be amazed at how bringing home a new member of the family will feel!

 

Happy Valentine's Day!

 

Sixteen signs that you like someone

Sixteen signs that you like someone

SIXTEEN:When you're on the phone with them late at night and they hang up, you still miss them even when it was just two minutes ago.

FIFTEEN:You read their Texts and Ims Over and over again.

FOURTEEN:You walk really slow when you're with them.

THIRTEEN:You feel shy whenever they're around.

ELEVEN:When you think about them, your heart beats faster but slower at the same time.

TEN:You smile when you hear their voice.

NINE:When you look at them, you can't see the other people around you, you just see him/her.

EIGHT:You start listening to slow songs while thinking about them.

SEVEN:They're all you think about.

SIX:You get high just from their scent.

FIVE:You relize you're always smiling when you're looking at them.

FOUR:You would do anything for them, just to see them.

THREE:While reading this, there was one person on your mind this whole time.

TWO:You were so busy thinking about that person, you didnt notice number twelve was missing

ONE:You just scrolled up to check & are now silently laughing at yourself.

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Tips for online dating

Tips for online dating

"Long walks on the beach, a passion for music and movies" just isn't going to cut it anymore in the rough and tumble world of online dating.

Struggling at finding love on the Web? Start by blaming your online dating profile, which may contain out-of-date photos, bland descriptions, or one too many white lies. Correcting these common mistakes should go a long way toward avoiding another Valentine's Day alone

Is your profile right?

"Look around; you tell me -- how good are profiles these days," said Evan Marc Katz, dating expert and author of "I Can't Believe I'm Buying This Book: A Commonsense Guide to Successful Internet Dating." Katz has written some 500 profiles for clients on his online profile writing service, E-Cyrano.

"People, after years of doing this, they've gotten the message that they've got to do better," he said. "But most people don't know what that means."

Just ask Mark Sweeney how the wrong profile can doom dating. Sweeney, 49, a gay retired mental help aid in upstate New York who bought his first computer last year on friends' recommendations, had been out of the dating scene for seven years. When he first put up his dating profile, he suffered through a number of bad experiences and mismatches. "People were just looking to regularly exchange with as many people as they can," he said. "They were just perverts."

Sweeney later joined Match.com, which helped him polish his image. "They can help put into words if you're not a good writer." He said his new and improved profile helped him land a date 3-1/2 months ago with Joe, who lived 30 minutes away

Get the right user name

Try to be different. Remember, if you're alone, you're in good company.

"There's a lot of people looking for love; they don't know what they don't know," Katz said. Avoid being one of them. Here are few tips to start with.

The profile sprucing begins with the very first line -- your user name. Make it pop, advises Gail Laguna, spokeswoman for Spark Networks, owner of sites including JDate.com, ChristianMingle.com and BlackSingles.com.

Forego generic abbreviations of your name such as JSmith101. Laguna suggested something more expressive, like Live2Laugh or WhiteWaterWarrior

Be specific

Experts also suggest that you try to be more specific in your profile. Anyone can say they love candle-lit dinners and sunsets, said Janet Siroto, editorial director of Match.com, a division of IAC/InterActiveCorp.

"Try to replace them with things that are more specific or unique to you," she said. "If you're a great vegetable gardener, not everyone can say that. You like bluegrass music on weekends, share that.

Pics tell a lot

Another pet peeve among experts: Don't bother telling prospective companions how gorgeous or fit you are. Show them with photos, which leads to the next point.

Lose the seventies get-up. If your main photo makes you look like an extra on the film "Boogie Nights" or was shot more than 12 months ago, it's too old.

Old photos, in fact, are the No. 1 shortcoming of profiles. "Photos that are old or if you're wearing an outfit you had in the 1970s, the one where you're on the dance floor. That's probably the biggest complaint," Laguna said

Don't be negative

Another piece of advice is to drop the bad vibes. Most people know exactly what they are not seeking, but pointing that out repels potential dates.

Instead of saying certain types need not apply -- an alcoholic who can't pay his bills, say, or old men under five-feet -- tell people what you are looking for, Katz said. "Your job is not to stop the wrong people from writing to you but attracting the right people."

Honesty works

Most of all, be honest. "The reason that people are on there ... is they want to meet in person. So why waste your time not being honest?" said Thomas Enraght-Moony, chief executive of Match.com.

However, on dating sites, especially those courting users seeking longer term relationships, it doesn't help to bare it all. Sweeney said, "I would tell people to go to a legitimate site like Match.com where they don't allow naked pictures, where you can get help with your profile."

 

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Get Best out of your Credit Card

Get Best out of your Credit Card

Buying something expensive is no longer a problem. From that designer outfit to the most recent gizmos, you can get it all with a swipe of a credit card. But is it as simple as it sounds? Should you get carried away with those flashy ads and promos telling you how easy it is to buy stuff? Let's find out.

Whether dining at a restaurant, doing your grocery shopping or making the latest purchase, the most convenient mode of payment today is the credit card.

But wait a second before you swipe it -- do you know how to make the best use of your card? Which brings me to another question -- do you ever wonder why so many banks chase you with the offer of a free card? The answer is simple; it's the hefty interest rate (as much as 36 per cent per annum) that they charge when you don't pay your credit card bill on time. This interest is a lucrative source of revenue for them.

Understanding credit cards

A credit card is issued by a bank or a credit card company; it permits you to make purchases or pay your bills without using physical cash. The most important benefit is that you get a leeway of 20 to 50 days to make your payment after you use the card. Your bill is calculated from the date of billing. The time between each billing cycle -- which is the billing date between one month and the next -- is known as the 'interest free period'; however, if you do not pay your bill on time, you will be charged a hefty interest.

The second flexibility that you get is the choice to make the payment either at one go or on a monthly installment basis. Though this option becomes more feasible in terms of easy payment, watch out for the interest rate that can go up to 35-43 per cent annually.

Ask yourself basic questions

~ Why do I need a credit card?

~ Is it because it is easier not to have to deal with cash or is it because everyone else has one?

You must realise there is no such thing as a 'free lunch'. Why would anyone offer free credit cards or even free add-on cards? Add-on cards are offered to you if you pay your bills regularly or have a good payment history. These cards can be in the name of your father/ mother/ spouse/ child; they can use the add-on card for making purchases. It functions exactly like your own credit card. Of course, the purchases are billed to the main credit card owner's account.

Whenever you swipe your card, it comes to you at a cost. You use the credit card to your advantage when you clear your bill within the 'interest free period', which is generally between 20-50 days (depending on the billing cycle).

Credit cards broadly fall under four categories -- regular, silver, gold, platinum. Each offers more facilities and each is more expensive.

Before you make up your mind to own one, do not forget to run a search on the maximum benefits you could avail of under a particular card. For instance, some credit cards offer discounts on airfares, retail shopping, etc.

So, while choosing the right card for yourself, know the costs involved and the benefits you can enjoy.

What else should you know

Once you start using your credit card, the card company sends you a monthly statement list of the purchases/ payments you have made with the card. You will have to pay this bill within a certain number of days. Don't ever forget that you will be charged a high interest rate if you don't pay your bill on time, that is before your due date.

Generally, a credit card finds a place in your wallet because of its 'free credit period', also known as the 'grace period'. This means you don't actually pay for something as soon as you buy it using your card. You pay for it when the credit card bill is delivered to you.

The number of 'free' days that you get depends on the statement date and the transaction date. Generally, a time frame of 20 days is given, but if you plan purchases smartly, you may end up getting even 50 days of credit. This means that, if your billing date is today and you buy something tomorrow, you could get 50 days of credit. However, if your billing date is today, and you bought something using your credit card two days ago, you will only get a benefit of 22 days.

Make the best of your card

1. Pay your bill before the due date. If you are not able to do so, use the transfer balance facility through which you can transfer the balance amount on your bill to another credit card issuer and pay fewer charges.

2. Do not use the cash advance feature (where you can withdraw cash against your card just like an ATM) unless it is very crucial; the amount you withdraw does not qualify for an interest free period. The interest rate charged on such withdrawals ranges from 25-30 per cent per annum.

3. Know your credit card's billing cycle, the actual date of when it begins and ends. Make your purchases in such a manner that you get maximum free credit days.

4. Don't own multiple cards. Stick to a maximum of two cards. More than that and you will find it difficult to keep a track of how much money you are spending.

5. Always clear your credit card bills at least seven days before the due date to avoid being hit with a late fee.

6. Before you choose your credit card, take suggestions from your friends/ relatives.

7. Keep the receipts you get when you use your card; use these to check your bill when it is mailed to you.

8. Keep your card and your 16 digit credit card number confidential.

9. If you have more than one, carry only those that you think you will need when you leave the house.

10. Look out for cards that give you the highest free credit period.

 

Girlfriend’s 7 Shades of love

Girlfriend's 7 Shades of love

Dear Friends,

"Love in the heart was not meant there to stay. Love is not love till you give it away". For love to be ever lasting and eternal every one should be aware of the different stages of love and know its significance. Following are the different phases through which you will travel in your love life and only those who pass it will have an endless love.

 

ATTRACTION

Attraction can be defined as something, which is more than friendship and is a step towards getting ready for a relationship. Now attraction is of two types:

a. Physical Attraction - happens when your body reacts to another person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises, palms get sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. This is what will tell you that you are ready for the first contact and also whether you are comfortable in the company of the other person.

b. Emotional Attraction - develops next if the circumstances are right. After being drawn to a person physically, you then begin to come closer. If you find you have things in common -- hobbies, ideologies, career, education, or some other common ground -- then an emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an emotional attraction can occur even when a physical attraction does not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between the two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on physical appearance has occurred.

 

INTIMACY

Intimacy is something, which a person experiences when you learn to trust and believe your lover. It is a close association with another person of the deepest nature. You share you thoughts, feelings, and dreams. You feel free to discuss everything with this person and you are absolutely comfortable in his company. Thus intimacy develops gradually. If you can't establish intimacy with your partner, your relationship may work for a while, but is unlikely to endure throughout the years. Intimacy is actually the path to a true, healthy and beautiful relationship.

 

ROMANCE

Romance is the essence of a relationship. Without romance your love life will not exist. Romance is the true identity of your love. It brings out your true self and helps you be a better lover, husband and partner. Romance is a celebration of the life you live as part of a couple. It springs naturally and originates from within your heart. It makes you do things that you possibly couldn't have imagined to do otherwise. It shows you who you are and reminds you of the role you play in a relationship. Romance is not responsibility but it is caring about your responsibilities towards your lover and partner. Romance is the appreciation of two people who are celebrating the lucky coincidence that they found each other.

 

PASSION

The third stage is passion, which basically means a desire for another person, which has grown to an intensity that can't be ignored. This is often where an emotional relationship turns into a physical relationship. The passion stage is very important. For from here you will understand the true meaning and nature of your relationship. If there is no passion then its best to let go but if there is passion in your relationship then it is time to go on to the next stage.

 

COMMITMENT

The last stage is commitment. This is when you know that you want to spend your whole life with this person you love and you can do anything for him. It is when your whole world just revolves round your lover and you take a pledge to remain true to your mate throughout good and bad times, be by his side whenever he needs you.

 

eyes meet, it is like a touch...

a spark...----------------Attraction

 

the touch of the eyes was as if, it was...

------------------ Infatuation

 

the flame of her body is felt, his breath starts igniting...

------------------ Love

 

she touches him like a whisper, as if silence is mixed in her eyes, he prays, a little consciously, a little unconsciously... ------------------ Reverence

 

he is entangled on her path, entangled in her arms love now turns to...

------------------ Worship

 

living is an obsession... dying is an obsession... apart from this there is no peace...

------------------ Obsession

 

let him rest in the lap of death... let him drown his body in her soul...

------------------ Death

 

Do you know HOW to flirt?

Do you know HOW to flirt?

Do you know if you ARE flirting (could you be accidentally flirting)?

The following actions are considered to be REAL flirting indicators - check them out and see if you're sending (and receiving) the right message:

How to tell she likes you:

She gazes in your eyes with deep interest and her pupils are dilated.

Her skin tone becomes red while being around you.

Her crossed leg is pointed towards you or if that same leg is rocking back and forth towards you.

She raises or lowers the volume of her voice to match yours.

She rubs her chin or touches her cheek. This indicates that she's thinking about you and her relating in some way...

She winks at you while talking to you or winks at you from a distance.

She exposes the palms of her hand facing you.

Biting of the lips or showing of the tongue, licking her lips or touching of her front teeth....

She starts sitting straight up and her muscles appear to be firm.

She puts her fingernail between her teeth.

She laughs in unison with you.

She touches your arm, shoulder, thigh, or hand while talking to you.

Plays with her jewelry, especially with stroking and pulling motions.

She twirls her hair around her fingers while she is looking at you.

Eyebrows raised and then lowered, then a smile usually indicates interest in you.

While talking to you, she rests an elbow in the palm of one hand, while holding out her other hand, palm up.

In a crowd she speaks only to you and focuses all of her undivided attention on you.

While talking to you, she blinks more than usual, fluttering her eyelashes.

Big smiles with upper and lower teeth showing with a relaxed face.

She speeds up or slows down her speaking to match yours.

She rubs her wrists up and down.

 

 

Romantic Tips and Secrets

Romantic Tips and Secrets

Send a dozen roses: 11 red roses and 1 white one. The note: "In every bunch there's one who stands out - and you are that one."

"The art of love ... is largely the art of persistence" Dr Albert Ellis

Write him/her a check for one million kisses

Something for the Honeymoon or anniversary.... a lottery ticket and a note: "I hit the jackpot when I married you."

Book A Massage to give your partner a professional massage..

Kiss every square inch of her body S-L-O-W-L-Y !

Hide a love note in a bottle of vitamins. The note will say: "Try some vitamin L."

Scatter rose petals all over the bed.

Buy the music CD "Let's talk about love" by Celine Dion.

Three simple sex rules:

* gals are slow, guys are fast

* guys are visual: Show him...

* gals are auditory: Tell her...

Write notes on Post-it notes and stick them around.

Don't buy cheap lingerie unless you plan to rip it off her in passionate lovemaking.

Hide a love note in his pants pocket.

Other places to hide a small note:

* under the pillow

* in his shaving kit

* between the pages he/she is reading

Guys: know her dress size, shoe and stocking size, blouse and nightgown size, bra and panty size, pants and coat size, and of course her finger size (for rings that fit).

Gals: know his coat size, shoe and hat size, shirt and pants size, finger size (for bowling balls that fit)...

Give the gift of time (wristwatch) with this inscription: "I'll always have time for you."

NEVER, never, never say "I told you so".

Mail a lock of your hair to your lover.

Ask him to pick a number between 1 and 50, then reward him with that number of kisses.

Make a habit of taking a stroll after dinner every evening.

"Women fall in love through their ears, men fall in love through their eyes." Woodrow Wyatt.

When dining, share everything: your meals and desserts.

Make love on top of the washer/dryer (while it's running).

Attach a note on the TV remote: "Turn me on instead!"

Before getting out of bed, face your partner, give him/her a kiss and say: "I'm so thankful I have you in my life."

Sign your letters: "Forever and a day"

Place a heart-shaped sticker on your wristwatch to remind you to call.

On your lover's birthday send his/her mother a "Thank you" card.

Hide a pair of earrings in a box of chocolates.

Celebrate the anniversary of when you first met.

Shower together by candlelight.

Use the little strips of paper from Hershey's kisses as coupons redeemable for one kiss each.

Tell your mate that you - love, adore, admire, cherish, desire, want, need, prize, esteem, idolize, revere, treasure him/her.

Hide a little gift for her so she'll find it during a walk together.

Leave a note: "I know we are soulmates because....."

"Imagination is more important than knowledge" - Albert Einstein

Give her your jacket when she is chilly.

Nothing is impossible to a willing heart, so let your imagination go wild...

Guys: Hold her dinner chair.

"One does not fall 'in' or 'out' of love. One grows in love" - Leo Buscaglia

Buy her an outfit while she's trying it on; let her wear it out of the store.

Slip a little love note into his wallet, in between the dollar bills.

Drip chocolate syrup on selected body parts before lovemaking.

Inspiration for long time lovers: "The older the violin, the sweeter the music" - Anonymous

Gently brush her cheeks with your lips.

Give him a lottery ticket. Attach a note: "You are one in a million"

While slow dancing, whisper something sweet to her.

Get the song "I Will Always Love You" by Whitney Houston.

When attending a wedding, whisper: "If I had to do it over, I'd marry you again."

Hide a teeny, tiny gift somewhere on your body and make him find it.

Fill his toolbox with lingerie. Make him "work" to get his tools back.

Fold a love note in a fluffy bath towel.

Run your hands under warm water before going to bed.

Let a Shakespearean quote speak for you.

Gals: Never, never, never talk about your past boyfriends in front of him.

Sprinkle perfume on to light bulb. When light is turned on the scent of the perfume will fill the room.

Listen to a romantic audio tape, fix a cup of hot flavored tea, and light two candles.

Keep a journal of your romantic fantasies. Share it with your soul mate.

Take a picture of yourself in the most sexy outfit possible. Hide in a secret spot in your house and leave him or her clues on how to get there. Watch the sparks fly!

Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!

Fill bathtub with warm water sprinkled with rose petals.

Invite your sweetie to an intimate dinner at your place. Make a pizza and with the pepperoni you can write something sweet, like "you are the one for me".

Surprise your lover with a kiss before they can finish a sentence.

Write your own love poems then record them on a tape and give them to your sweetheart.

Give your love an antique compass and say "You will never lose me". Your love will swear the needle always points to their heart!

While your love takes a shower, write the words "I love you" in the condensation of the bathroom mirror.

Leave a trail of "Hershey's chocolate kisses" from the front door to the bedroom, right up to the bed. On the bed leave a note that reads 'I kiss the ground you walk on.' Make sure you're not home when s/he gets in!

Play the game of monopoly with a few new rules. Change boardwalk into backrub, and Tennessee into take your shirt off. Every time you pass go, you get a kiss. etc.

Look straight into the eyes of your love and PAY ATTENTION to what they tell you! Tell your mate something about you that no one else knows.

Look into the eyes of your special someone often. "The eyes are the window to the soul". Weave love, sex, intimacy, passion and romance into the fabric of your daily lives.

Buy a set of matching silk pajamas, and take turns modeling them for each other.

Men: Talk more. Women: Touch more.

 

History Of Valentine's day

History Of Valentine's day

As early as the fourth century B.C., the Romans engaged in an annual young man's rite to passage to the God Lupercus. The names of the teenage women were placed in a box and drawn at random by adolescent men; thus, a man was assigned a woman companion for the duration of the year, after which another lottery was staged. After eight hundred years of this cruel practice, the early church fathers sought to end this practice... They found an answer in Valentine, a bishop who had been martyred some two hundred years earlier.

According to church tradition St. Valentine was a priest near Rome in about the year 270 A.D. At that time the Roman Emperor Claudius-II who had issued an edict forbidding marriage.

This was around when the heyday of Roman empire had almost come to an end. Lack of quality administrators led to frequent civil strife. Learning declined, taxation increased, and trade slumped to a low, precarious level. And the Gauls, Slavs, Huns, Turks and Mongolians from Northern Europe and Asian increased their pressure on the empire's boundaries. The empire was grown too large to be shielded from external aggression and internal chaos with existing forces. Thus more of capable men were required to be recruited as soldiers and officers. When Claudius became the emperor, he felt that married men were more emotionally attached to their families, and thus, will not make good soldiers. So to assure quality soldiers, he banned marriage.

Valentine, a bishop , seeing the trauma of young lovers, met them in a secret place, and joined them in the sacrament of matrimony. Claudius learned of this "friend of lovers," and had him arrested. The emperor, impressed with the young priest's dignity and conviction, attempted to convert him to the roman gods, to save him from certain execution. Valentine refused to recognize Roman Gods and even attempted to convert the emperor, knowing the consequences fully.

On February 24, 270, Valentine was executed.

 

"From your Valentine"

While Valentine was in prison awaiting his fate, he came in contact with his jailor, Asterius. The jailor had a blind daughter. Asterius requested him to heal his daughter. Through his faith he miraculously restored the sight of Asterius' daughter. Just before his execution, he asked for a pen and paper from his jailor, and signed a farewell message to her "From Your Valentine," a phrase that lived ever after.

Valentine thus become a Patron Saint, and spiritual overseer of an annual festival. The festival involved young Romans offering women they admired, and wished to court, handwritten greetings of affection on February 14. The greeting cards acquired St.Valentine's name.

The Valentine's Day card spread with Christianity, and is now celebrated all over the world. One of the earliest card was sent in 1415 by Charles, duke of Orleans, to his wife while he was a prisoner in the Tower of London. The card is now preserved in the British Museum.

 

8 ways to divorce-proof your marriage

8 ways to divorce-proof your marriage

1. Talk, and listen

Make sure to share your thoughts with each other, daily, if possible, and to take interest in each other's lives. Make sure to check in with your spouse to ensure that they're truly hearing what you're saying -- and that you're receiving and understanding right back. "This is a responsibility that both people

2. Kiss goodbye and hello

"Hugs, kisses, quick squeezes, even holding one another's gaze are ways in which the couple can affirm their connection and commitment to one another,". Pausing for a hug and a kiss before you leave for work in the morning may seem like a small thing, but the warm glow it gives you is something to look back on all day.

3. Do fun activities together

Find a shared outside activity: Ballroom dancing, jogging, foreign films and gardening are some examples. They can help you both keep learning about each other. "While these hobbies can seem frivolous, they can actually serve to remind the couple of what they have in common and encourage them to relate to one another as a real people."

4. Have independent lives

Don't live life glued together. Make sure to have your own hobbies, interests and friends on top of your shared activities; you'll maintain a sense of your own individual identity and have lots to talk about with your partner to boot. "Before we ever knew our spouse existed on the planet, we had dreams, ambitions and interests that probably contributed to us making that love connection." Both partners continue to pursue at least one independent hobby or activity in order to nourish both themselves and their relationship.

5. Plan ahead

From parenting philosophies to thoughts on money to prioritizing goals and dreams, marriage means making plans together -- and the earlier, the better. Financial planning, for instance, "can often be a deal-breaker in a marriage." Don't assume that your partner knows how you feel about important issues -- sit down and discuss them before they have the chance to become a problem.

6. Fight with a purpose

Handling conflict constructively is key. A three-point plan for making sure fights have a positive outcome. First, acknowledge that every couple faces arguments, and that they're "not an indication that the relationship is doomed." Second, "each person should examine their own contribution to the conflict and be prepared to own up to it." Finally, both partners have to be able to spell out what upset them and how they would like the problem to be resolved. "By having this level of clarity, the couple is then in a position to talk about what happened in a focused way."

7. Make time for intimacy

"Sex is really the culmination of all of the little things that are done throughout the day," a reminder of how much you enjoy your spouse." So, the more, the better, right? Well, it's not so simple. What is important is that you are meeting each other's needs for intimacy -- which means they need to be articulated, as well (see 1, above). And intimacy doesn't necessarily mean sex, per se. "The broader the couple's physical repertoire, the better," This means that everything from kisses to cuddles to shared glances is game.

8. Focus on the positive

Sometimes, all it takes to brighten someone's mood is an honest compliment from someone he or she loves. One consequence of being part of a deeply committed relationship is trusting your partner's opinion, whether it's a compliment or a put-down. Don't take this power for granted. So if you think your partner looks cute in her new dress, say so -- and if you're not crazy about the shoes, keep your mouth shut. It's all about the greater good, after all.

 

How to Celebrate Valentine's Day

How to Celebrate Valentine's Day

1. Make dinner together and eat by candlelight

2. Slow dance to your favorite songs in your living room

3. Send flowers -- even when there's no special reason. Try sending exotic flowers instead of roses.

4. Mail a love letter expressing how you feel

5. Go to a drive-in movie

6. Make a "Coupon Book of Love" entitling him or her to a romantic dinner, free massage etc.

7. Have a wine and cheese picnic in the park at sunset

8. Dedicate a song on the radio

9. Share a blanket and watch the stars on a moonlit night -- or take a trip to your local planetarium

10. Take dance lessons together -- we recommend the tango!

11. Declare your burning love by purchasing a star for your sweetheart from the International Star Registry

12. Watch a sunset together in your favorite outdoor spot

13. Plan a romantic getaway out of town together

14. Buy tickets to a chick flick or performing arts show she would like or take him to his favorite sporting event

15. Buy a gift certificate for a pampering massage at a local spa -- OR, even better, get a massage together.

16. Pack his or her lunch for work -- complete with a silly love note and Hershey kisses

17. Send a care package, complete with his/her favorite book, CD, snacks, wine, a love note, and other small gifts.

18. Plan an outdoor adventure trip -- hiking, camping, etc -- or even a hot air balloon ride.

19. Call him/her at work just to say "I love you."

20. Make a list of the top 10 things you love about him/her

21. Make a custom CD or tape of his/her favorite songs

22. Write a poem and have it framed

23. Make a "play" date -- go to the zoo, ice skating, get ice-cream, go to a water park, etc

24. Recreate your first date

25. Take a walk together on a secluded beach

26. Go out just for coffee and dessert

27. Go rollerblading in the park or horseback riding together

28. Plan a wine-tasting outing to local wineries

29. Take a harbour cruise at sunset

30. Go to a museum

 

Love in the time of cell phones...!

Love in the time of cell phones...!

Let's assume you're back from a date and found your partner very interesting. You think he or she reciprocates the feeling. Now, you want to touch base to take this forward. Should you call or send a text message?

How soon should you call?

Remember, bad mobile communication habits could sometimes send the wrong signals. For instance, if you type your SMS in capitals, it could sound as if you are shouting. Here's a reality check on cell phone communication dos and don'ts in the age of mobile telephony.

 

The first call

You have just returned from a date, you like his or her company and you want to convey it. But a phone call even before he or she has reached the taxi stand may come across as a little too urgent. It is polite to enquire after your date and say you enjoyed the meeting, of course, which is why an SMS should do the trick.

When you call, talk

After that all-important first date, the future hinges on the first few phone calls. Initially, it always helps to keep the conversation interesting and impersonal, yet engaging. The greatest killer of all conversation is the question, "So, what else?" Avoid it. It may be an indication that you didn't connect, after all.

Also, avoid giving missed calls at all costs; you don't want to be known as miserly and cheap, do you? If he or she doesn't respond to your SMS or return your calls, maybe he or she just isn't interested. Sometimes, you just have to take the hint.

Flirting via SMS

So, things have moved beyond a few calls. Flirting via SMS can add some spice to your new liaison. Wit, and a dash of humour, always helps. Of course, this could be fun as well as dangerous. Jiten Gajaria, a 28-year old software professional, says, "You are trying to impress, but you cannot see the person's reaction." It's a bit like walking on the edge, yet thrilling for the same reason.

Siraj Syed, a communications expert with more than 30 years of experience, comments, "Flirting is perceived as attention without intention. Matching wits can be fun but, at times, being too direct could be perceived as frivolous and may give the wrong impression -- that you are not looking for anything long-term."

Do it with a smiley

These little emoticons add a personal touch and help express your feelings on SMS. But, it is important to know your limits. Not every message needs to begin and end with a smile. Nor is every message without one construed as dry. Your tone matters a lot. It should be polite and friendly. Well-chosen words communicate far more clearly than a couple of smileys can. Besides, some might find it too sugary and 'uncool'.

Be original

Another way to add a personal touch is to send real messages. Forwards, poems or love songs may say what you have in mind but, at the end of the day, an original thought tells the other person you have the capacity to think. You don't have to take a writing class, but speaking through another poet's tongue should be avoided -- unless you know for a fact that the other person really enjoys it.

"It's safer not to send pictures or graphic images in the initial stages either," says Siraj, "as it could suggest that one is trying to get too familiar."

Keep it short and neat

It isn't called Short Messaging Service for nothing. Initially, it may be safe to keep your messages crisp, because you are not yet in the 'sharing zone'. You don't know the other person's level of patience either. Huzefa Merchant, a 25-year old Mumbai-based businessman says, "Simple one-line conversations work best. The wittier, the better." Long-drawn messages can be tedious to reply to, besides being boring to some. "It may even tend to give the perception that one is trying too hard to impress," adds Siraj.

But, there are times when long messages show concern. So, bend the rules when you get more comfortable. Another little thing we tend to overlook is typographical errors and spelling mistakes. To some, shortening words adds to the 'paciness' of the SMS. For others, this can be very irritating. If your spellings are bad, use the mobile dictionary to brush up. Preferably, avoid bad language.

All said and done, the rules vary for everyone and to each his own. Keep the basics in mind though, at least until your relationship finds a foothold. The rest, as they say, is destiny.